EXPRESSION FUL LIFE...

Relationships & Expression

I love my dad , I feel sorry for what ever I did , I didn’t want my friend to take me in such a way , I meant something else, I wanted to tell him something , I lost a chance to tell him that I loved him , I wanted to hug my mom every morning , I wanted to take care of my little brother , but………!!

This is what we live in a big and never ending ‘BUT’ .

Why have we made it a habit to regret, why not put things straight and let off this BUT from our lives. Same is in case of relationships that matter so much to most of us,I would be really surprised to know that some one feels that relations don’t matter. Most of our tensions , our worries or putting it in an optimistic tone , most of our concerns are relations , let them be with parents , with friends which we choose very carefully, with love partner or any one with whom we share some level of care. We fail to understand the reasons for strained relations.

I shall not be discussing all reasons leading to not so good relations how ever I shall have a single most important point discussion which can cause a major break through in your life and your relations.

It is very important for you to take yourself through the text, need your presence in it to understand the underlying discussion.

I will tell you a small instance from which I will try to explain what I am trying to say.

There were two sisters ,one was very beautiful and the other wasn’t so beautiful.One day they had a few guests visit their house and one of them happened to say that the elder daughter is more beautiful than the younger one. The younger sister having heard this had a churn in mind , a burst in her heart , and this was the end of the sweet relation these sisters had. The younger sister decided that she was going to be better than her elder sister in everything possible and had made it a point to always dominate. On the contrary the elder sister could never understand the reasons for such change in attitude , how ever she always tried to do good for her and tried to give that protective shield she thought was her duty to give being the elder sister.

Years passed on like this , today the elder sister is in India, and the younger sister is married and lives in UK. Now that she is mature she recalls her days and realizes that she was all the time victimizing her sister for reason that was not at all a valid reason(she concludes this after some on helps her introspect and think deep into what she had been doing). How ever she was hesitant to talk to her sister and say that she loves her and that she was sorry for all she did all through to trouble her. She kept on thinking to say it but postponement was all she could do.

The elder sister recently met with an accident. The younger sister wanted to say sorry ,that’s it , she couldn’t . The elder sister was no more alive. She was left incomplete with her sister and now she would never be able to complete, the pain of which still haunts her.

My point of discussion is not concentrated towards the sister reacting to be-little her sister all the time , but the point here is the incomplete relation and non expression.

It is very important for all of us to complete with our loved ones , It is very important we express , It is very important to say ‘I love you’ , It is essential to understand the power of confession. As it is very rightly said ‘ Words not said , are words not heard’. We should try and understand the practical side , it is just not possible for two people to know how they feel about each other until and unless they say it out or actions are in accordance.

If you love your dad , say so , if you care for him , a small gesture such as saying that ‘I care for you’ is not going to take anything of you , its going to add a big smile on his face and make his day. Its going to give you the strength to talk to him freely and remove the so called non existent gap you have developed over the years, mind it I am saying a non existent gap because it is a fictitious gap which is self made. All that has been created out of perceptions and non expression of thought and thus leading to non clarification at every stage , which ultimately leads to accumulation of not so good perceptions about your dad and his concern for you starts appearing to be a pretence.

In nut shell I would request all to lead a life of expression , thus lead an empowered life where your relations are strongly held by the power of trust which again can only be achieved through expression.

Happy ‘expression full’ Life..!

Silent Evil...!!

Silent Devil – Expectations…!!!

The absolute reason for extended tensions…The reason for strained relation between couples, friends brothers … any one who shares more than just a relation with any one else is enslaved to this master called Expectation, I call it the master because it ends up ruling most of us.

I am motivated to write on this because my experience over the 2 years at my B-School has taught me how not to be a slave to the self-proclaimed master. Though not always but yes most of the times am able to be a master of my thoughts …

Recently had a discussion with a friend on this and surprisingly during my discussion I was able to give reasons and ways not to allow the devil(‘expectations’) rule us.. . . which I had never thought of before…though I was unknowingly practicing it for quite a while now.

We should realize that every individual has a different threshold... a different level of understanding the other person … One may be able to read the other when he or she is upset but at the same time the other might not be able to realize the same… this is where one needs a little more maturity and a balanced expectation, now I do not say holding expectations isn’t right but letting them be on you is the test… Expect realistically, and the time you understand how to handle it …you suddenly find relations being amazingly beautiful… because there is no point pulling some one to a level of your expectations which might be uncomfortable resulting in tension at both the ends..

So be realistic, do not stretch any one to a zone where it becomes daunting for both( here I am referring to 1-1 relations say Brother-brother, friend-friend, etc….)

Coming up next on another way to ease expectations… EXPRESSIONS…!!

All the best..!!

What will 'People' Say...???

'People'

God ..! why do we encircle ourselves into this ..??
Why do we need to let 'PEOPLE' define our steps...?
why do we need to be good to some one because people have accepted the the person..and why do we need to be rude t some one because people have discarded the person...why do we need to buy something because people like it..!
Take a break...Release us

All of us spend most of our time trying to 'look good' ..in literal terms as well..

Pretense has been the way for many and surprisingly these are the people who actually win a lot in life ..hold on..am not submitting to this way of being...because this way of being's victory is hollow...its all temporary glory....

The very reason for pretense is non acceptability by society....But the sad part is pretense actually sends you away from reality, you are then just left to be used by society...used i would say because when under the pretense phase you are ready to do anything to please people around you..you loose your self respect, you are 'just among the people around' .....

Your life turns into one of 'use and throw' ..

Because you are chained into the artificial way of being..!
you are avoided when not needed..
you are discarded when you are useless..

Yes...you do get a little popular...but thats just for the time when we need some one to joke around about...

My discussion was not just about pretense..
i was talking about 'People' effecting your decisions...

would continue later...

TIME...!

Days should have been atleast 40 hours long and all the clocks, watches or anything that shows the ‘time’ should be destroyed. What is this life? Iam totally chained by my watch. What I do every hour of the day is decided from the day before. All spontaneity has vanished. No time to day-dream(barring those study mins during xams which are no more there now that am through with my MBA ). but i have time to blog.. :)